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It's all very well to say that we must remember the lessons of the past. As long as we listen to what we are actually saying...
Far too many people remember the past rather that the lessons of the past.
If we remember the past then we will remember the fun, the love... the fear, the hatred... And there is a horrible tendency to maintain and repeat, the fun, the love, the fear and the hate. The fun and love of the past were great at the time. I prefer to live, love and enjoy the present and the future.
If we remember the fear and hate of the past -- we tend to still feel those same emotions, of fear and hate. If we destroy the present with our fear and hatred of the past then what have we learnt? Nothing. But if we remember the lessons of the fear and hate of the past then we may just get to be better people.
What lessons may we learn from the past?
How about: This particular action, or situation, or person, caused us fear, or hate, or love...? Close...
How about: This type of action, or this general situation, caused us fear or hate or love...? Better. Why are these better lessons? Because the action is in the past but we may be affected in the future by a similar type of action. Because the situation has come and gone but a similar one may lie in the future. Because we may want to avoid being in that type of situation and we should learn to not cause that type of situation...
More importantly: an action or a situation may be good or bad -- but a person may have changed.
We need to deal with the actions and situations that have occurred. This may include "dealing with" people who did the action or who created the situation. (Remembering that we may be the very people who did, or who created.) Then we need to move on.
Deal with the past -- then live in the present -- and prepare for a better future. Don't avoid the issues of the past but deal with them. Then let the issues go.
Remember the lessons of the past. Use the lessons to learn to have a better present. With good will and some luck, this will lead to a better future.
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